be proud of wherever she goes. You can't change yourself so much that she can't go out in public with you, and maybe you have to let the hair on your body grow in the summer so that she can go to the beach with her husband, not her sister. Be a man when you are a man, and a girl when you are a girl. Don't make her uncomfortable by looking like a guy in a dress, when you are dressing, either. Its much easier for her to accept you as a girl, if you act like a lady. This doesn't mean swishing or trying to talk in a squeaky voice. You're somewhat of a woman al- ready or you wouldn't have started in the first place. Let yourself de- velop naturally, and let your personality be your own. You're the same person no matter how you're dressed, just express yourself without try- ing to act another role, or pretend you're trying to pick up a man. Just take the emotions that you feel when you are in your prettiest dress and let her feel them, express your love for her and let her know you really care. Don't become so self centered that you go out and buy all sorts of things for yourself and neglect her. Sure you want an expensive sweater but does she have one, get her one too, or don't get yourself anything at all. It would be a wonderful thing if you and your wife wore the same size, but most of us are about three sizes larger, so consider her, always first, and she'll put you first, too.

Next thing, and one that I have found by bitter experience, when you buy something for yourself, take care. Even if you have a wife, don't go on any buying spree, and get a lot of cheap ill fitting things, besides be- ing uneconomical, its downright unladylike. Your wife won't do it, and neither should you.

You might not get as much, but you will have them for a long time, so they should be good. Remember, you won't be buying things that you will be throwing away during your next purge, because you will be secure. And even if you aren't, you should know good and well, that if you did dispose of them you would later wish that you hadn't gotten rid of them. I only dress when I have the need to, and I don't try to regu- late it, but I know that my wardrobe is small, but good, is safely in its own special closet and drawers when I want it. It's separated, but not hidden and I take as good care of it as any other thing that I care about. Skirt hangers aren't expensive, nor is drycleaning. Anyway, back to buying. If you can shop with your wife, fine, she knows a lot more about this than you do, listen to her, and her advice, check your sizes and know them before you try. There is an excellent chart in a back issue of TVia to help, and if you aren't quite sure, you can always exchange. Don't settle for clothes that aren't comfortable, or too tight, or loose, watch your weight and note changes against dress sizes. Dress, and

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